Kasey Grace in ColorGuard

Kasey Grace in ColorGuard
Kasey Grace in Colorguard

Dinner with half the kids

Brett, Dad, Kyle and Ryan

Dad, Kyle and Neiko

Kasey

Kasey loves to mismatch her socks

practicing in the yard

More practice in 110 degree heat this summer

sisters

Alesa on a mission trip

Daddy's girl

Julia our girlie girl

Julia

Zhenya doing what he does best-EATING!

Dad and Alesa, Julia, Kasey and Zhenya at the lake

Mom and Julia

Mom and Alesa

Alesa

Thursday, June 18, 2009

Meeting the lovely Lena

We arrived yesterday and had to do the paperwork chase and then we went to the orphanage. We were so excited! How do feel when you know you will meet your child for the first time? Like when they laid our bio children in our arms, it is an unbelievable feeling when you meet your child and begin the process of marveling over them and getting to know them.
The director had told her the night before that a family was coming who might want to adopt her so she was expecting us. They finally ushered in this absolutely adorable and precious girl. We got up and met her halfway coming in the room and we hugged her. I am crying while I tell you about this meeting. She was beaming from ear to ear. She is very pretty, wholesome, and so poised and self confident. We spent the day with her and we bonded very quickly.
When we came back in the afternoon she came running down the path and threw herself into our arms with the biggest smile. We gave her the photo album that the girls and I had made for her showing our family, her new home and her old friends. She was so delighted, and in it I had put pictures I printed from the computer of her friends in America who had been adopted. That would be E, K ,M(A) and she was so thrilled. Today she took us to the music room and she played the piano which she does beautifully and sang for us. She is an incredible young lady. Lena is everything we heard and more. She is well loved by the other children and our facilitator said she is so kind and has a sweet heart. She is nice to all the children even the ones who are younger. She shared everything we gave her with the others and would pull in the ones who were shy and standing in the back to make sure they got something too.
Later she came and sat between her Dad and I and she laid her head on my shoulder and started crying and kept hugging me so tight. I thought maybe she was sad that she was leaving, so later I asked our facilitator to ask her why she was crying. Sveta talked to her and said, she was crying because she was so happy to finally have a family of her own. She kept showing everyone her album and saying my papa is a pelot (pilot) and mama a teacher and my brothers and sisters and my home. Does it get any better than this, and people think we are so wonderful for what we are doing. No, this is so selfish because we love the feeling of being able to give such a deserving child a family and a future.
I never have the words to express the orphanage children. We have spent so much time playing with them and every night we go back to the apartment and cry for them. Such beautiful children with no family. They wander around a pitted asphalt area. The teachers are wonderful they are so kind and try to do so much on so little. I brought two suitcases loaded with games, hair clips, paints, and so much more. Tonight Mark played for two hours with the football I brought. That was very new to them and he showed them how to play the game. Quite funny when there is no common language, but amazing how that barrier can be overcome. It brought tears to my eyes to see these boys of all ages just loving the attention and how they hung on everything he said or did. In the meantime I brought big bubble makers and we had them running and jumping, blowing and catching bubbles. Then I brought all kinds of earrings, lip gloss, and nail polish so I spent the evening doing manicures with the girls. We also made paper cranes and they were so incredibly patient. I teach paper crane making to my 6th grade class and my students are not nearly so patient.
They have so little it is heart breaking. I see them running around in the plastic shoes and half of the bottom will be missing so only the heel will be covered and the toes will be on the pavment. This is an extremely poor orphanage. There is one little girl who is 8 and she looks to be about 5 she followed me everywhere, but kept her distance, she is extremely shy. I would talk to her and she would not make eye contact so I just kept trying. I finally won her confidence and now she stays by me the whole time. She is really a stand out in many ways I would love to see her get a home. Everywhere you go they just want two seconds of your time to show a drawing they have done or to hope you will speak to them. I had two little girls about 7 bring me a drawing today that had both their names on it and had mama and papa written over their names. I told Mark this is always the part that is the hardest to bear the ones we know we are leaving behind. They are forever etched in your hearts and your memory.
There is so much more to tell but I must close for now.

13 comments:

  1. I am enjoying your blog. It is great to hear about Lena. My heart just melts when you speak of her crying because she is so happy for a family. There are so many wonderful kids there that all want a family. It was always the hardest thing to be there and see so many that want to come home. I am surprised so many kids are at the orphanage. I thought they would be off at camp by now. I told Bogdan I would call and write after summer as I thought he would be at camp. If you see him say hi to him for me. God Bless!

    Lance

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  2. I am tearing up thinking about it! How wonderful! You'll have to post pictures at some point. She looks like such a sweetheart from what I saw on Reeces Rainbow!

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  3. I have such a heart for the older kids in orphanages, especially the girls... I would LOVE someday to adopt an older girl (if my husband would let me!). I will be watching your blog with great interest over the next while and pray that everything continues to go so beautifully. :o)

    GOD BLESS!!!! :o)

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  4. How wonderful, I am so happy for Lena to have a family! I can't wait to see pictures, she sounds absolutey precious!
    Amy
    RR

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  5. What a wonderful little lady your new daughter is. Congratulations!!!
    I know exactly what you mean about the children left behind. We were at the baby house in Tbilisi last year and those children touched us so deeply we've been doing fund raising ever since. There but for the grace of God goes our daughter. I think you'll find the memories of the orphanages don't fade in our hearts.
    You may want to do something on an ongoing basis for those children with Lena. They say some children may suffer from survivors guilt after a while. Letting them help those left behind I believe will help them take more control of their past.
    Congratulations again. I wish you were able to post pictures of your trip but you're very good at painting a picture for us ;o).
    Enjoying your blog!

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  6. Wow. As an adoptive parent, I know the heartache for all the Ukrainian children we leave behind. I told the orphanage yesterday (we are currently in Serbia adopting, #1 daughter is from Ukraine) that we would take one of each. Oh, if it was only that simple. We will continue to pray for a safe journey for you!

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  7. I'm in tears! Tears of happiness for Lera and tears of despair for the other children there. I hope you're able to take lots of pictures and start advocating for some of these other children who need forever families! God bless you all and we are praying for a fast court date and the rest of the process to go by quickly and smoothly!

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  8. I accidentally typed "Lera." I meant Lena! ;)

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  9. Your post really says it all. It really made me cry as I was reading about Lena and her reaction to having a family and about the other children. I know many of them and words just don't describe the depth of emotion you feel for these children after meeting them and spending a few weeks with them. Thank you for calling today! Elizabeth said that Lena is so happy to have you as her parents. She kept saying Lena is so happy, happy, happy! Sharon

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  10. I am so happy for Lena. She has had such heartbreak in the past. She IS an amazing girl and we are so happy that you are now (almost officially) her family! Katya is here and asked me to please relay this message to her: I miss you so much and I'm so excited for you to come home! I live about 3 hours from your house in Texas and my mom said we can visit you this summer when you get home if it's ok with your parents. You will love having a family and living in Texas. I can't wait to talk to you soon! Love, Katya

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  11. Your post brought me to tears! What a beautiful and heartfelt way of writing what is going on in your heart! Life shouldn't be this way. It is so sad, and yet children are amazing! They will grab happiness and hold on to it and it will see them through. They hang on to hope so tightly, unafraid of hoping too much! Bless these young ones, may the Lord God move mightily in this orphanaage! May he bring families to each precious one that dwells within!!!! I believe God is moving already! Thank you so much for sharing! It makes me even more committed to my own journey to my girls!

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  12. Over and over your experience remind me that out of terrible sadness can come the greatest joy. You and Mark have created Cinderella stories with love instead of a magic wand! Your account of your first day with Lena and the other children moved me so much...and of course, I completely understook what you said about patience and paper cranes :-)
    Longing for your quick return with the newest Bobinger--any indications on the timeline for that?
    Love--A.

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  13. I had tears roling down my face reading this. I am so happy for Lena and for your family! I couldn't stay away from her picture on RR and prayed so many days that her family would find her :)

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