Lena called us yesterday - I love the phone communication between us, me; "Lena" very excited, her; "Mama" me; "I love and miss you" her; "I love you" then giggles and silence on both ends. So much for us to say and no words. Now that our kids here have all learned English, I forget this period of time of what we call the "caveman communication" - Hand gestures, but not much help over the phone, the Russian/English dictionary, also not much help over the phone. I can't even use my best form of communication when all else fails, a big hug or a touch. They seem to learn the language so quick that I forget the frustration and also the fun of communication in the beginning. I hand the phone to the girls and they chat to her like they are old friends.
For those of you who have learned some Russian to communicate with your child in the beginning, please don't be hard on me. I am terrible at languages, not that I haven't tried, but my kids have begged me to give up. Our first four pleaded with me not to sing. I would rock them when they were little and sing to them. My dreams of rocking and singing my babies to sleep came to an abrupt end when my three month old tried to make a fist and bop me in the mouth so I would stop the awful noise. Sort of the same story with the second set of kids, only this time it is language not song and they don't bop me, they just go into hysterics when I try my Russian on them.
This will be our last adoption which makes me sad, kind of like the last baby I knew I would ever nurse. We know it and we are ready for it, but sometimes the last of anything can make one a little teary eyed and since I cry over all my childrens' first times, last times, successes and failures this will be no different. Then we move on because we must and we enjoy the next stages as much as we enjoyed the last. My kids tell me that I always say, "this is my favorite age" - now it is a family joke because it seems that each age is my favorite age.
Now we begin the journey of a last stage only to return to begin a new one. Life is precious and exciting and I love this path God has set before us.